Oh, July. You dying-of-heat-I-just-want-pools-and-air-conditioning month, you.
We have been so busy this month, making our house into our dream home. Wow. I’m equal parts exhausted and grateful that we have made it so far. Here are a few highlights from the month:
July highlights …
Here are a few favorites:
- DIY cedar and barn wood patio reveal
- Downstairs bathroom
- Word art on the porch
- Wood box from scrap flooring
In July, we really spent a lot of time together as a family and also went on adventures as a family unit. It. Was. Awesome. Not perfect every moment, but we desperately needed to spend time together without projects looming over our heads.
We haven’t had the chance to do this in ages, and it was long overdo. I think filling up our quality time jar helps me a lot in kindness. When I don’t feel frazzled, overwhelmed or stressed, I’m kinder to those around me. Ryan and I are trying to be better about scheduling this time together – going on little adventures together with Henry.
Having our new space has really made me feel so grateful – to my husband for all his hard work and sacrifice over the past few years, to our family and friends who graciously gave their time and talents, and to my son for managing to go through a lot of transitions and changes with maturity far beyond his years.
So that’s the good things this month. But there’s something I’m realizing that isn’t helping my kindness level.
Friends. I just can’t even with Facebook anymore. There are a lot of reasons I go on regularly – not the least of which is this blog and some other freelance work. But I’m realizing that it’s not something that’s filling my kindness tank. It’s making me irritable, annoyed and angry. And most of all, sad.
I get it. We all have opinions. I have opinions, too.
But, you won’t be hearing about my opinions on Facebook. (I’d be happy to talk about them in person, in a hopefully non-ugly way.) Going forward, you also won’t see me “commenting,” “liking” or “sharing” posts that are just plain rude or unkind or polarizing. I wish I could say this was easy for me. But it’s not always easy – and sometimes I get pulled into Facebook. I do have opinions – but I’m realizing that I just can’t be part of the nastiness that has become social media. I don’t think that these conversations help, and instead cause hurt and hard feelings.
This isn’t just about politics (although, God knows that’s part of it). It’s also parenting, healthcare, world issues … it seems to be everything. I’m just tired. I’m expending too much emotional energy as I see all the ugliness.
So this means that in August, I’ll be spending less time on social media. (I’m still going to share my posts on Facebook and will do my best to respond and share there when I can – but it just won’t be as often as in the past and I won’t spend much time scrolling through the newsfeed.)
I’ve already taken the app off my phone (again). I’m sure I will probably miss things. But I’m okay with that. I’ve gotta let go of FOMO (fear of missing out). And instead, I’m going to focus on spending more time living in the real world (which, coincidentally, was last year’s goal). That’s something I can do and won’t miss out on.
I’m going to ask a few friends to try to keep me accountable about this. And I’d certainly appreciate any support and encouragement from you, too.
I’m sharing the books I read each month because I love to see what books people love and partially because I think reading actually does make me a less vile person – thus leading to my goal of kindness. Maybe it’s convoluted. The links with to the books are affiliate links on Amazon, in case you want to buy any of the books I’ve read.
Summer is a slow time for reading for me. Too many outdoor activities and things on the to-do list. But I did finish one this month.
Sharing the love …
When it comes to kindness, I want to be the person who encourages and uplifts the talents of others. Here are a few things I’ve really been inspired by this month …
- Incredible shed makeover at At Home with the Barkers
- Laundry mudroom makeover at Imperfectly Perfect
- Colorful chicken coop at Primitive and Proper
A few things that helped us make it through the month:
- Girl about Easton tunic (My favorite top of the summer – and also one I get the most compliments when I wear.)
- Tazo Sweetened BlushBerry K-Cups (My very favorite summer drink, period.)
- Body glide for her (How have I ever summered in skirts without this?)
- Norwex superior mop set (This has been the best way to keep our floors extra clean. I can use it several times before washing, and it only takes water. I bought it from a friend locally, but it looks like it’s also available on Amazon.)
(Some may be affiliate links.)
Next month …
We’ll keep trucking on with house projects – working on that to-do list. And we’re also going to try to soak up the last month of the summer before school starts again. (And hopefully a little less online time.)