I’m flying high after celebrating Henry’s birthday – there’s something painfully raw and overwhelmingly exciting about celebrating my baby’s birthday.
I love it. And I hate it. And then I love it again.
Anyhow, let’s talk about May, baby.
May highlights …
There were so many projects and so much progress in May. I have way more to share in June. Plus, warm weather. (Hooray!) Here are my favorite posts of the month.
- Planting succulents in the window boxes (which still look amazing and I haven’t had to water)
- Tips for a successful sale
- Our completed hardwood floors
- Our beautiful new trim
I had some stressful moments this month with the house and Henry’s party and life that made me unkind. Working on that. I think the first step is acknowledging and apologizing.
I’m also working on reigning in my sharp tongue. I have a tendency to shoot off something before I think, so this month I tried to think more before speaking – especially with Henry. I don’t want him to inherit this nasty trait from me.
One thing that’s been working for me is to deliberately say “I love you SO MUCH,” when I am upset. It sounds crazy, but sometimes I say this intending to end the phrase with “BUT …” and telling him what I’m upset about.
- “I love you so much BUT I’M SICK AND TIRED OF YOUR ATTITUDE.”
- “I love you so much BUT YOU REALLY NEED TO PUT ON YOUR SHOES.”
- “I love you so much BUT YOU HAVE TO STOP SCREAMING AT ME.”
But instead, I just leave off the “but.”
So, I just say, “I love you so much.” (Period. End of sentence.)
This has really made a huge difference in my kindness. That doesn’t mean I don’t discipline or tell him what to do. (I do. I do. I do. I’m the chief discipliner in my household.) But there are many times that he already knows what’s wrong and he’s often even begun working to correct it. So instead of nagging and harping, I can just end it. Just ending it is not my strong suit, but I think it makes me a kinder person and mom.
Now, I need to work on doing this in other relationships – I don’t need the last word and I don’t need to harp on issues. Just leave it.
I’m sharing the books I read each month – in (approximately) the order of favorites. I share because I love to see what books people love and partially because I think reading actually does make me a less vile person – thus leading to my goal of kindness. Maybe it’s convoluted. The links with to the books are affiliate links on Amazon, in case you want to buy any of the books I’ve read.
Neither of these books were favorites – they were both just okay, but I wish I would have read something I really loved this month.
- A Thousand Acres by Jane Smiley (review on Goodreads)
- Live Wire by Harlan Coben (review on Goodreads)
A few of my favorite podcasts this month …
- Reply All: Episodes 64,65 and 66: On the Inside: This is such an interesting and engaging story about Paul Modrowski, a man in prison for a crime he says he didn’t commit. The reporting all started because he was writing a blog while in maximum security prison. But through several episodes, the story takes on the feel of Serial, asking about what really happened the night of the murder Modrowski is accused of. I’m hooked.
When it comes to kindness, I want to be the person who encourages and uplifts the talents of others. Here are a few things I’ve really been inspired by this month …
- Gorgeous gender neutral nursery at Hudson and Co
- Genius scarf storage at The Chronicles of Home
- Outer space/superhero-inspired room at Young House Love
- Vintage sink and vanity at That’s My Letter
Next month …
I’m crossing my fingers for the big move …