I’m going to be real with you today.
March. Was. Hard.
I was going to avoid talking about it here, because this is meant to be my happy place. And my pain is still raw. I want to talk about our new home and Easter eggs and paint colors and gardening. Because these are wonderful things that almost everyone loves.
Hey, look. An ocean …
But you know what? Life isn’t always pretty or happy. And that’s okay, my friends. It’s okay to be broken and wrecked sometimes. It’s actually a part of almost all of our lives at some points.
In early April, we would have announced that we had another baby on his or her way. But just shy of the official second trimester, we found out that our baby was gone. I know that too many families have to go through this. And I wish no one had to experience it.
It feels like the ultimate injustice. We were shocked, angry and very simply – devastated.
But here’s what I know. When something terrible happens, you learn a lot about yourself and those around you. And while we go through this, we do it with the support of so many awesome people.
This year, I wanted to focus on kindness. And in late March, I saw the embodiment of kindness from those around us.
In March, I learned that Ryan, Henry and I have the most wonderful tribe of family and friends. These are people who truly helped us get through this. And what I’ve learned is that:
- Kindness is crying with someone who is hurting.
- Kindness is a daily phone call from my mom and mother-in-law, just to check in.
- Kindness is telling someone it’s okay to grieve and hurt and feel however he/she feels.
- Kindness is a prayer and a text and a sympathy card and a quick visit.
- Kindness is a hot meal.
- Kindness is dropping everything or going out of the way to be there.
I’m no expert in loss or in life, but here’s what I know – kindness can be everywhere and anywhere. And during the most challenging times, kindness can be the life raft that keeps someone from sinking under the surface of grief or unhappiness. A hug or a kind word or a smile could be all it takes to lift someone out of sorrow.
March taught me that kindness really matters.
Next month …
I’m going to skip all the other highlights this month. You can check out all the books I’ve read this month on Goodreads (I’d recommend The Girl You Left Behind), and I hope you’ll take a look at the posts from earlier in the month – including some wonderful progress on our home.
I’ll probably be back next month with a more “legit” monthly recap. And I’m choosing to keep a positive attitude, because April is a new month and spring promises wonderful things –
- Close, close closer yet to moving into our new home.
- My birthday month. Which starts on the 1st, because that’s what happens during a birthday month.
- Gardens and blooms.
And my biggest wish is that I can be deserving of the kindness that’s been given to us in the past few weeks. By sharing it. And if you are hurting, please know you aren’t alone. I hope you discover there is kindness around you, too.