For the past few years, I’ve been trying to focus on a large goal for the year. I’ve always been a big goal-setter, but this gives me a true priority for a time. Unlike many resolutions, these priorities don’t really have “finish line” – it’s more about self-improvement over time.
This gives me a way to focus my priorities and goals for the year.
This year, I set out to spend more time in the present. Are you wondering how I’ve done? Me, too. Here’s a little recap of my year.
I’ve said no more this year than ever. In the past, I had a tendency to say yes, even when it was inconvenient to myself and my family.
But one thing I learned about myself this year? There are lots of activities to which I want to say yes. I want to be in all the clubs. I want to try all the crafty things. So it’s hard for me to narrow down and focus.
But I’ve been doing better at saying no this year – and I think that’s progress.
Cut the to-dos.
I really feel like I’ve allowed myself to be less busy this year. This was very necessary after years of wearing busy as a badge of honor.
In 2015, I allowed myself to step away from commitments that weren’t a good fit for me and my family.
Instead, I’ve read more books in 2015 than ever before. I’ve spent full days at home with just Henry. (Which is something I need to do more often – we don’t have to be out and about every day.) I’ve gone days without looking at my calendar.
This seems like it may be a bad thing, but it was very necessary. And ironically, my freelance business and blog were more successful than ever in 2015.
I didn’t want to be the person who answers the question, “How are you doing?” with “Busy.” I’m working on it.
Find my zen.
I didn’t exactly focus on relaxing – but cutting my commitments actually does make me more relaxed. (Shocker.)
I did really well with exercise and yoga for about 6 months. When I committed, I did really well. But I know I can do better. And I know that regular exercise does make me a better friend, wife and mom. Working on that.
Forget the stuff.
I know that spending time maintaining, cleaning and organizing stuff adds stress to our lives. I understand this, but that doesn’t make it easier. I still want all the stuff, you guys.
Leaving all the stuff behind is hard for me.
Luckily, we live in 320 square feet. So it’s necessary to keep the stuff to a minimum. Now, in 2016, I’ll have another 1200 square feet to deal with.
Wish me luck.
While being present was my goal for the year, I feel like it was something I need to think about just as much going forward. It’s really important to me to be present – and I know I still have progress to make. I think being uber-connected is something I struggle to turn off. I still waste too much time on social media or the computer. But I hope that I’ve made progress this year.
I’ve also been thinking a lot about what I want my focus to be in 2016. I will share some thoughts about that tomorrow.
But now I want to know …